Amy Coleman

Feb 14

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Oct 24

Condé Nast Discontinuing Internship Program -

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For a bit more context on the situation, we suggest referring back to Ernie’s post on the Black Swan unpaid intern case, which is still winding its way through the court system as we speak.

Interesting development. Flawed as the system may be, how much harder will it be for interns to break into the workplace if more companies follow this lead?

More importantly, how do we fix the problem? A lot of companies only offer unpaid internships for college credit, which is great until you graduate and still can’t find a job. In another twist, it’s being noted that some companies only offer jobs to those with “paid experience,” which in present times seems like it might be hard to acquire unless you work your way up from intern to employee. 

Not being categorized as an employee leaves you vulnerable without many civil legal recourses*. However, sometimes unpaid internships are valuable stepping stones to long-lasting networking relationships and careers. And, for the most part, the T&Cs of unpaid internships are laid out pretty clearly when one starts. It will be interesting to see how this all plays out; whether more companies ultimately follow Condé Nast’s path. 

*although for some offenses, like sexual harassment, you can file a criminal charge and still get justice.

Oct 22

My boyfriend has always made it a point to open the door for me when we get in the car. At first, I would try to rush and get ahead of him, so he couldn’t do it, or ask him not to. He couldn’t understand why I was being so weird about it. 

"I can do it myself," I’d say.

"I know you can do it yourself," he would sigh, "but it’s something I want to do for you."

A couple of weeks ago, we had dinner with another couple. The guys both agreed this kind of behavior was weird on women’s part. Basically, women should know that men are just trying to be polite; they’re not trying to pass judgment on women’s capabilities or sensitivities.

I never explained why I feel so strongly about it. 

The problem is that for every man like my boyfriend and our friend, there’s many others who define women in a different, lesser sense.  Men who approach women on street or at the subway late at night to pass judgment on their appearance and berate them when they’re not interested. Men who take to the internet to criticize women’s hair and shoes. Men who get defensive when women are strong, who call for them to return to their “ladylike" days. Men who get offended when women don’t respond to their flirtation at bars, labeling them as ‘bitches,’ they have never experienced the shit that comes with being a woman in 2013 and thus are so ignorant of the fact that maybe a well-intentioned ‘hi’ is the 14th unsolicited comment that girl received that day. Men who open car doors and carry boxes for women because deeply engrained in their minds is a belief that WOMEN ARE LESSER.

For every man like them, there is at least one who vigorously follows google links like, “Women should know their place,” “Women cannot be trusted,” “Women need to be controlled.”

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For every man who will really think about this UN advertising campaign are countless others who will dismiss it as nothing more than another shrill noise from the feminist brigade.

Oct 20

I totally want to buy something from the Ready for Hillary store but apart from the onesie everything SUCKS

I totally want to buy something from the Ready for Hillary store but apart from the onesie everything SUCKS

Oct 17

On a related note - via 

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Oct 16

Unpaid interns cannot bring sexual harassment claims as they are not employees -

I am sort of a firm believer in unpaid internships. I was lucky to have two extremely fruitful internships, one that landed me a full-time job after admittedly some soul-sucking months of working for free. I learned a lot at both my unpaid internships and put a lot of effort into absorbing as much as I could. Whether I had to photocopy mindlessly or do the work of two people while an employee was out sick, I juiced each opportunity like a big orange.

Working for free is an emotional mindfuck. Every dollar you spend seems like an awful lot (I once almost cried in public when I realized I’d lost a $5 daily metro card) and your self-esteem diminishes as quickly as your savings. At the very least, you deserve to be toiling in an environment where your contributions are valued and you are learning something you can later use of value. 

So what if you get subjected to sexual harassment at your internship, and the court finds you’re not an employee? You can’t get any civil damages under workplace prohibition of sexual harassment, although you could press criminal charges against the individual. 

Some states, like Oregon, have already started to pass laws to protect unpaid interns (from, among other things, sexual or racial discrimination.) Should all states do the same? It’s hard to know where to draw the line on this issue. Would too much regulation lead to the demise of the unpaid internship? And, if so, just how much harder would it be for twenty-somethings to land positions after college? 

Oct 09

“And of course, they hadn’t really thought of me as a person. Why should they? These images are throwaways, little bursts of amusement to get through a long workday. You look, you chuckle, you get some ridicule off your chest and move on to the next source of distraction. No one thought about the possibility that I might read those words. Far less, that I would talk back.” —

My embarrassing picture went viral, Caitlin Sedia, Salon

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So good.

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Oct 05

"and I am OKAY with that because her friendliness should not make me believe I am entitled to dance with her."
- my Spanish lesson

"and I am OKAY with that because her friendliness should not make me believe I am entitled to dance with her."

- my Spanish lesson

Aug 18

Birdy is polite in a “Can you please help me find my rain boots?” and “Thank you, I’d love another deviled egg” kind of way. But when strangers talk to her, she is like, “Whatever.” She looks away, scowling. She does not smile or encourage.

I bite my tongue so that I won’t hiss at her to be nice. I tell you this confessionally. Because do I think it is a good idea for girls to engage with zealously leering men, like the creepy guy in the hardware store who is telling her how pretty she is? I do not. “Say thank you to the nice man who wolf-whistled!” “Smile at the frat boy who’s date-raping you!” I want my daughter to be tough, to say no, to waste exactly zero of her God-given energy on the sexual, emotional and psychological demands of lame men — of lame anybodies. I don’t want her to accommodate and please. I don’t want her to wear her good nature like a gemstone, her body like an ornament.

” — Catherine Newman - I Do Not Want My Daughter To Be Nice. http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/31/i-do-not-want-my-daughter-to-be-nice/?smid=tw-share&_r=2

Aug 10

Poll: is it weird or proactive to pay to join a group where I would be set up with other women looking to make friends?
And, why I am so entrenched in my own normality that I assume everyone who would pay to join this would be kind of weird and incapable of making friends on their own? Everyone except me, that is. 

Poll: is it weird or proactive to pay to join a group where I would be set up with other women looking to make friends?

And, why I am so entrenched in my own normality that I assume everyone who would pay to join this would be kind of weird and incapable of making friends on their own? Everyone except me, that is.